Posted in Recommended reading, Self Reflection Posted in July 2, 2014
We can all experience situations when our mind can take on a life of its own allowing negative thoughts whether about ourselves or others in a particular situation to get out of hand with unwelcome consequences for our own confidence and behaviour.
Most of us are fortunate in that we do not allow the thoughts to endure and we can break out of it. If we don’t it can impact our health and well-being.
A good first step to limit the impact of this negative thinking and stop it in its tracks is when you feel it coming on take a step back and run through the facts of the situation. The facts or evidence will more often than not, not support the thinking and help you turn the volume up on the positive thinking.
So if my mind is telling me that I always screw up, then I can check the evidence:
- What is it we are talking about and how bad is it really?
- Who said I screwed up?
- Who supports me and believes in me?
- What have I got right, recently and what is going for me?
- etc etc
If this is something that resonates with you and you want to learn more about managing your own thinking I would recommend an excellent book “Change Your Thinking” by Sara Edelman . This is an excellent guide to managing upsetting emotions and to think in a healthy and balanced way and gives practical strategies for overcoming negative thoughts and behaviours.
Posted in Leadership, Recommended reading Posted in August 20, 2013
If you are unsure how coaching is viewed and used and what its benefits are, this article by Gretchen Gavett summarising recent research by Stamford University/The Miles Group Survey gives some useful insights to how 200 CEOs, Board Directors and other senior directors view the subject.
Posted in Leadership, Recommended reading Posted in August 12, 2013
“Formidable leaders find the tough questions, and then, instead of being afraid to ask them, eagerly decide to seek out the answers. They dig in deep to the details that matter and ignore the ones that merely distract. They bite off more than others can chew but consistently avoid biting off more than they can (because they care so much, it hurts to admit that you’ve reached the end).”
Follow the link to read the full blog. If you have not already, I would recommend subscribing to get Seth’s daily blogs; they always get you thinking and give some great insights to business and our own thinking.
Posted in Recommended reading Posted in May 8, 2013
The Little Book of Leadership: short, sharp and to the point. Great to share with colleagues and friends.
If you want to read more of Phil Dourado or leadership in general check out www.theleadershiphub.com
Posted in Leadership, Recommended reading Posted in April 15, 2013
Obvious, but sometimes easily forgotten!
What will you start today?
Posted in Leadership, Recommended reading Posted in April 8, 2013
A good article on the leadership hub by JLCTaggart reminding us that leaders are not only found at the top.
This reinforces my belief that there are great leaders at every level and we have to make sure we don’t get in their way and just let them get on with it.
Hope you enjoy.
Posted in Recommended reading Posted in March 14, 2013
An interesting and entertaining talk about how our brain works and some strategies on how to get the best out of it.
Rock’s book “Your Brain at Work” is worth a read.
Posted in Leadership, Recommended reading Posted in December 12, 2012
No doubt your organisation has a set of values that have been set out as a guide for employees in their day to day work. The importance of walking the talk around the values should not be forgotten.
Clear and consistent values are an essential element of successful businesses. History shows that they truly live the values and bring them to life not through policies and procedures, but ultimately by what they do and how they do it. They are value driven.
Tony Hsieh’s book Delivering Happiness is a great read about how he successfully grew Zappos and worked to define the values, keeping them alive as the company grew and using them as a guide for everything the company did in interactions with customers, employees and suppliers.
So let’s not forget that whilst policies and procedures are important elements of an organisation, what counts is what we do and the intentions that underpin it as it is this that will be observed and replicated throughout the organisation. Enron and Lehman Brothers are a few of many examples where the stated values were not demonstrated by the company leaders and disaster resulted.
It is worthwhile regularly reminding yourelf and the team of what the values are and being clear about what those values look like in action. If people do not see the values in action then the piece of paper they are written on is both worthless and useless.
Posted in Leadership, Recommended reading Posted in October 3, 2012
“Achieving success in work and in life, one conversation at a time”
Scott defines a fierce conversation as “one in which we come out from behind ourselves into the conversation and make it real”.
I enjoyed how her passion comes out in the book and the way she challenges us to ask questions of ourself in the first instance and then to ask questions and listen rather than make judgement and give advice. The book is filled with examples illustrating her concepts and gives clear practical steps to follow.
A highly recommended read that will challenge you to get out of your comfort zone and bring about real change by making every conversation fierce.
Posted in Recommended reading Posted in July 23, 2012
“the pyschology of optimal experience”
The author looks at what motivates us, integrating research on consciousness, personal psychology and spirituality in what I found to be a compelling and very stimulating read.
Csikszentmihalyi explains the relationship between our skill levels and degree of difficulty of a task that creates flow and looks at how this can be controlled and managed to help us to happiness and better quality lives.
Although I have just finished it I am looking forward to reading it again to take even more out of it!