I recently read a piece by Sam Leader in the Flying Solo website that referred to Thomas Harris’ work describing four life positions. http://www.flyingsolo.com.au/live-smarter/business-psychology/im-ok-youre-ok
- I’m not okay, you’re okay
- I’m not okay, you’re not okay
- I’m okay, you’re not okay
- I’m okay, you’re okay
Sam does a great job of describing the different positons you may have and explaining why 4 is of course the healthiest position to have.
Thinking about it was a sobering experience for me as I realised that there was a bit of no 3 in me! My new awareness around this is changing my outloook and approach and is a work in progress.
So what outlook do you have? Not sure? Ask others (if you want the hard truth ask your parner!)